Engagement is both an exciting yet overwhelming season of life. It can be challenging trying to balance everything, especially your spiritual life. As a woman, you just want your dream wedding. As a man, you are just ready to get it over with, hoping you do not go broke in the process. The engagement was an eye opening and hectic time for me. It seemed like everything was vying for my attention so much so that I put God on the back burner when in actuality he should have been first place.
As you prepare for marriage, there are a lot of changes happening around you. If you were like me, you moved to a completely new state and had a wedding all within ten days of each other. Talk about stressful. There were times I decided I wanted to elope. I was so frustrated with my family and the planning process that I was completely over it. Those thoughts simply came from a heart that was more focused on the upcoming nuptials rather than the marriage itself. I had to take a step away and refocus on God.
In prayer one day, the Lord told me to seek his face and to keep my eyes on the throne, for the devil will seek to devour my marriage. The Bible says in Psalm 37:4, “Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.” When you pray, God’s presence alone brings solace. He will also bring you back to his Word. It was at this point that my eyes opened to the reality of the situation. It is not about the move or the wedding itself, but about the union God is bringing me into and the purpose for which he is bringing me into it. Allowing these things to distract me was only a trick of the enemy to keep me from focusing on the end goal. The goal is not to have a beautiful wedding, although that is nice; the goal is to have a purposeful marriage that pleases God.
There are several things you can do to keep your eyes on God during the season of engagement.
Prayer is the key. It is important not just to pray by yourself but pray with your future spouse as well. As you all pray, you will begin to see things happen quickly and easily. Proverbs 18:22 says, “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.” The favor of the Lord is already on the man because he has found his Good Thing.
Worshipping God during this time is crucial. As you worship him, you will begin to get answers and insight on your purpose. Not only that, but worship changes your whole nature. During worship, you find peace and comfort. All your worries and cares seem to go away. Matthew 11: 28-30 says, “Come unto me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”
Habakkuk 2:2 says, “And the Lord answered me, and said, Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that readeth it.” Remember marriage is about vision and purpose. When you keep the vision before you, you can ignore those things coming to distract you.
Engagement is a wonderful and joyous time. Being engaged to the person God has for you is the best feeling in the world. It is easy to get caught up in the wedding and forget about the marriage itself. During the engagement season, I want to encourage you to keep your eyes on Christ. Do not allow unnecessary things to cloud your vision and cause a rift between you and your future spouse. God has a purpose for you, and this is a time of celebration and preparation. Give it God and watch him move in unexpected ways.
My name is Jaymi Saffold. I am from St. Louis, MO but recently moved to Dallas, TX after marrying my God ordained spouse in October of 2015. I graduated from Oral Roberts University. My major was Biology Pre-Medicine and I had a double minor in Humanities and Biochemistry. I love God and I am able to express that love through my writing. I also have a passion for dance, fitness, and cooking.